He used to hide his true self because he feared people wouldn’t like him, or would judge him for being too much this and not enough that. He found himself acting like everyone else, even though his heart wanted to express itself in ways that felt different than much of what he was seeing in the world. His heart grew louder, and he longed to taste a different kind of freedom, one his mind had worked hard to contain in order to keep him feeling safe. But that safety came with a price: his authenticity. Then it occurred to him, some people would judge him no matter who he was or what he did. And that if he was going to be judged anyway, he may as well live his life as authentically as possible and at least be judged for his truth. He also knew some people would love him no matter who he was or what he did, and how much better it would feel to be loved for being real. .Scott Stabile
About This Quote
There is a difference between being true to yourself and being authentic. One can be true to himself or herself without being authentic. The most famous example of this comes from the movie, "Good Will Hunting." The main character, Will Hunting, longs to be more than just a good soldier. He dreams of being a successful film maker, but his true passion lies in mathematics, not art.
During his childhood, he was ridiculed for this passion. He learned that if he wanted to fit in, he must hide his passion and become a gang member instead. If he was a gang member, he would have been praised for being so tough and so responsible for his friends.
And as long as he was praised for being tough and responsible, no one would ever find out about his passion for math. In the movie, Will decides to risk everything by telling the truth about himself. In doing so, he finds that people do not judge him at all for who he is or what he does.
Rather they see him as a valuable ally who can help them with their problems. This lesson is one that applies not only to Will Hunting but also to everyone who wants to live a more authentic life.
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